My birth name is Trinidy Mitchell, I go by Shelly. I am from the Southwest and still have family
ties to that area. My Grandfather and Grandmother retired in the Mesilla Valley
of New Mexico and raised pecans and pistachios among the many fruit trees that
thrive in the desert air. Orlando and
Daytona have been my home base since 1985 and hopefully will be until
retirement. I have two dogs and a monkey; my dogs are one
older Corgi and a rescue puppy from the Orlando Shelter. Phinneas is an aborial tree monkey from the
new world. She is a cotton top tamarin , a squirrel sized monkey from the
Callitrichidae family. She is three years old , and a major handful defiantly
not a good pet.
I am in my senior year at UCF and my major is
Psychology. Women’s Studies interested
me because I eventually want to work in the area of Social Work involving women
and children of abusive family circumstances.
I would like to learn how to show women, girls and young boys that many
of the cultural views of women need to be re-learned. Women are the basis and strength of many
civilizations and learning to impose this strength without creating anger to
certain groups or individuals would be an accomplishment. My granfather did most of his career in
liquid natural gas production in Algeria, Northern Africa. When we visited him and my grandmother, my
mother, myself and my two sisters were not allowed to leave the airport without
a male escort, we were not allowed to go into restaurants because we were
female, he would go in and buy us a soda and some bread and bring it out to the
sidewalk for us to eat. In the evenings,
only men were out of the homes and women were not allowed to drive. His explanation of the cultural differences was
a lifelong lesson and a valuable one. He
taught me and my sisters that we should not judge other cultures but instead,
learn the differences and conduct our lives in a manner of acceptance of these
differences. He also expressed to never
accept treatment from any individual or group that would make us look or feel
inferior because of our gender and to do so without creating a hostile
environment that could cause bodily harm. He stressed that education of both genders creates
equality but not to the extent that he would consider fair to the female. He made that statement years ago and although
I have seen improvements in the struggle of equality for women in the United
States, I have also noticed other cultures beginning to break through the binds
as well and would have to contribute this movement to universal communication
and education. I make the claim of
noticed improvements from watching my mother go from a company with no female
upper management to all but one female management staff in a course of twenty
years. I remember her saying that she
would never be chosen for a job because of the “good ole boy syndrome”, which
seems to have been squelched more than just a little bit.
Shelly,
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your stories (and pictures, I love pictures) with us. Your grandfather sounds like an amazing man.
I believe many social workers would benefit from programs related to gender. I have a good friend who comes from WST and is now working as a program director for social work mentoring program for low income families in DC. She works with her clients on issues of gender and economic stability. It is amazing how gender can impact the survival of families!
MLT